Maybe you could use some better boundaries.

We all do, but sometimes we don’t even recognize that they’re lacking.

A friend said to me yesterday, “How do I know if I need boundaries?”.

I said, “Do you ever feel tired, overwhelmed, resentful, taken advantage of, or have trouble saying no? Or maybe you worry what people will think if you don’t go along with what they suggest, and you a are human and have had to take a breath in the last 20 seconds, then yes, you need boundaries”. We all do.

Maybe she and you don’t need to set them now but believe me, you will need them. For some of us, we know we need boundaries immediately when something comes up.

Even with Covid boundaries have become such a big deal. Perhaps someone invites you to do something you aren’t really comfortable with, and what do you say without hurting their feelings? Maybe you compromise yourself to avoid saying anything, and you feel conflicted. That’s where you need boundaries.

Here’s the hard part. So you know you need to have boundaries. OK, so now what?

Knowing what to say is really tough. BUT here’s the good news! You can learn how to communicate what you need with a framework. It’s like a boundary script. Whatever you’re facing, you take that and work through some necessary steps and VOILA, you know what to say.

You know how to set a clear and kind boundary. You’re a virtual genius! Yes indeed.

If you’re still unsure if you need some boundary-setting skills, check out this list and select what might apply to you. If one of them fits, then you might need some help. If many fit, you could use some help and this is also proof that you are very normal. Not to worry.

1. Your relationships tend to be complicated or dramatic.
2. You find decision making a real challenge.
3. You really, really hate to let other people down.
4. You feel a lot of guilt and anxiety.
5. You are often tired for no apparent reason.
6. You are a tiny bit annoyed most of the time.
7. You secretly feel that others don’t show you respect.
8. You might just be passive-aggressive.
9. Your secret fear is of being rejected or abandoned.
10. You feel resentful

If you’re thinking, “Why would I need help setting boundaries?” or “How do I not know how to do this?”.

None of us knows how to set effective boundaries. Boundary setting should have been part of every grade we completed, but it was never taught in school.

This was not part of a high school class that you missed out on when you decided to skip and go for a coffee with your friends that day. It’s an essential life skill that was never taught to us.

If you struggle with feeling tired, sometimes overwhelmed or resentful, then looking at what needs to change to reduce that stress and angst would be a delicious treat. Boundaries would be a gift you give yourself this year.

Boundaries could literally save your life.

I would love to help you decide what you need to live your best life as we start out this year.

I am hosting a boundary-setting webinar where you will learn to recognize when boundaries need to be set, how to communicate your boundary effectively, AND how to navigate the feelings that come when we set boundaries. This is the goodness we all need of.

I’m over the moon excited to share this with you as this is one of the modules from my BFD program, the Big Flippin’ Deal program, that I’m launching later in the month. We get to share a sneak peek of some of the goodies there, in this boundary-setting workshop.

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Join me for a Boundary setting webinar on January 12th at noon MST or January 13th at 6 pm MST.

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Register today and invite a friend. Even if you can’t make it, register anyway so you can get the recording!

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Register here for January 12th at noon bit.ly/3hHrOql or

January 13th at 6 pm bit.ly/2Mp06TG

(copy and paste the link into your browser to register if it doesn't work to click on it)

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I can’t wait to see you there!!!

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Leona xo

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